One of the hardest things for parents can be watching your children fall over and hurt themselves (literally and metaphorically). But learning to dust yourself off and pick yourself up (literally and metaphorically) and try and try again is one of the most important life lessons you can learn. The earlier you teach this to your girls, the more empowered and equipped your gorgeous girls will be to not just navigate life but thrive in life too.
Here's 3 Ideas to support your girls reaching their highest heights.
1. SET GOALS
Creating dreams and goals gives us things to look forward to and work towards. It also teaches us to nurture our nature and pursue our passions and interests. Goals and dreams can come in so many forms. Everything from learning to bake a cake all on your own, to mastering that makeover of a clean, organised and redecorated bedroom, to receiving gold at the athletics carnival. Whatever interests your girls have, give them the space to pursue them and the opportunity to dream on their dreams, then create goals and milestones towards those dreams. Remember to check in with your girls along the way to see how they are navigating their internal dialogue about reaching the destination of their dreams.
2. FEEL THE FEELINGS
We all have a wide range of emotions that make us a whole person. As girls grow through each development stage and then into puberty they will experience a constant flow of ever changing moods that can have just as much unguarded surprise on them as to the person they share (and sometimes direct) those feelings. One of the most healthy, healing and cathartic ways to let your girls shine, is to allow them to share their darkness when they are feeling low, angry, frustrated or unhappy. Allow them to express their dark, their light and the rainbow of colours of emotions in-between. Remember also to create a healthy family dialogue about your own range of emotions, how you manage those emotions and things you may do to move from dark to light.
3. FAILURE CREATES RESILIENCE
Failure sits differently on different people and sometimes seeing our girls fail is harder for parents than it is for the kids. There are so many ways to teach our children (and us adults) to keep in pursuit of our dreams regardless of how many times we fail and want to give up. Books and movies are a fabulous way to share dialogue with your daughters of the Hero's Journey to overcoming obstacles and setbacks and receiving guidance from others to being supported to achieve your dreams. Give your girls the opportunity to succeed in life through the setbacks they will stumble on throughout their life journey.