It can be so hard discovering that your precious daughters have worries but little girls can have big worries. It can be a combination of things that lead girls to worry, feel stressed and in fear but if these worries are not addressed early on in life, they can build. When we worry we tend to go around and around in our head and when we do that tension builds, stress levels rise and self awareness, presence and mindfulness diminishes.
Girls can tend to overthink everything from a very young age, so it's important to upskill them with life learning strategies like resilience, mindfulness, self regulation, de-stressing and relaxation early on. You are never too young to learn how to relax, chill, share your thoughts and feelings and unwind the mind.
Here's 3 Ideas to support your girls letting go of their worries.
1. ASK HOW THEY ARE
If you want to know the answers, you must ask the questions. After a long day at work or living through that never ending cycle of 24/7 parenthood, taking the time to ask your children how they are or how their day was can be a task in itself. However, if you want your girls to come to you in good times and bad, you need to regularly create the space for your girls to share. Before a little girl's head hits the pillow, like big girls and grown women, she takes those worries with her to sleep. The sacred bedtime ritual can be a wonderful trusted space for your girls to share. Build in a little extra time at bedtime to create the space for your girls to open up and offload their worries and fears and download their day.
2. LOOK FOR THE SIGNS
There are so many signs we can miss in discovering our gorgeous girls have pressing issues weighing down on their mind. Things like bullying, believing they are not pleasing a parent or a teacher, not getting along with friends, feeling unpopular or struggling with their weight or grades, can all dramatically effect a girls' self esteem. Never be afraid to seek professional help even from your trusted GP, Family Doctor or Child Psychologist to check in with you and your girl about how little things may be feeling like big things.
3. RELAXATION TOOLS
Sometimes the best thing to do to let go of worries is to stop the head talk altogether. Using relaxation tools like meditation, self massage, listening to relaxing music, dancing, drawing, painting, or exercising in nature are all powerful ways to turn the attention away from the stress and to the natural rise and fall of the breath.