There is always a lot of debate about whether nurture or nature carries more weight when it comes to the development of a child. Instead of looking at one being more superior than the other or in competition with each other, another approach might be to look at them complementing each other. Think of it more as, 'nurture your nature'.
Kids will naturally have traits, talents and special qualities they have inherited from their parents and key influencers such as carers and family. Yet, they will also have their own special unique qualities too. When you take the time to observe and recognise your child's natural gifts, you can use this as a guide to support your child to shine. The earlier you do this in a child's life, the more scope they have to grow, but it really is never too late to take the time to notice the innate nature of your child and nurture that.
Here's 3 Ideas to support your girls to nurture their nature.
- WEEKLY HIGHLIGHTS
Spend time each week, asking your child what they enjoyed most at school (or pre-school if they're toddlers). Just listen, observe, ask questions, engage with interest and then make a mental (or written note) of what your child talked about. After a time, you will notice patterns your child takes particular interest in.
- BUILD INTERESTS INTO ROUTINE
Give your child opportunities to do more of what they love, more of what they discuss they enjoy, regularly each week. It could be enrolling your daughter in a dance or art class, or simply turning the music on each night while dinner is cooking and having a pre dinner dance off. If they are into animals, you might like to take them to the zoo more or simply visit the local pet store or stables. If they love stories, the library or cinema is a wonderful place to visit. You may even like to play catch outside, if sport is what makes them happy. There are many ways to nurture your child's interests and for you to show interest in your child's interests.
- YOUR CHILDREN ARE NOT YOU
It's very easy to fall into that dialogue of, 'they take after me/you/them'. Extended family often adopt this line of dialogue too. It's natural when a child does well to feel proud, but often that pride can become more internally focussed and therefore, praise misplaced. Your daughter may be completely different to you and every member of the family and that's ok. The more you do to nurture her nature, the more you are raising a confident and competent girl that will shine bright in her own light.