Your beautiful girls will look toward all sorts of people throughout their life as role models. Some will be a positive influence on your daughters' lives and some won't be so positive. That can be scary as a parent or carer, knowing there are people that will come into contact with your children at some stage in their developing years and not leave a positive mark on your daughter's development.
We can't monitor and control every single interaction our daughters have with every single person they ever meet - friends, teachers, parents, grandparents, aunties, uncles, cousins, siblings, neighbours, babysitters, carers - the list goes on! But... we can support our girls to 'recognise' role models they admire and enjoy being around, people who inspire them and encourage them to shine.
If your girls can learn to recognise 'positive role modelling', this is a terrific life skill to add to their tool kit of life learning to build their resilience, develop their self worth, value themselves and feel confident being just who they love to be.
Here's 3 Ideas to support your girls discovering great role models.
1. BE THEIR ROLE MODEL
As parents or carers, your children will naturally look to you as a role model whether you are modelling positive behaviour or not. Be mindful that your children are watching and learning from you, even when you think they are not listening or paying attention. Everything you say and do will be observed and learned by your child. For example, if you want your children to feel good about themselves, ensure you model behaviour that shows you feel good about yourself while also taking the time to recognise what your child loves and enjoys doing so well.
2. POSITIVE PEERS
Some friends are naturally more confident, while others can be shy, moody, outspoken, seemly selfish or stubborn. Let's face it, we're all different. It's that difference in people as individuals that makes us unique as a collective community. Not all friends get along and that's ok. Sometimes we need a little time apart to recreate healthy boundaries. But sometimes what can be really useful is discussing with your girls what traits they admire in some of their friends and why and then working with their own confidence in recognising their own positive traits. We can all get a bit negative about people but when we look towards peers in a positive way, that's where your focus draws to.
3. REAL LIFE HEROES
It's really great to get your girls to look to the wider world and recognise the skills, talents and milestones of people they don't know that they admire. A great exercise is to ask your girls who they admire in sport, the media, the wider world. Chat to them about what they like about them and why and use this time to learn more about what your girls attract to in terms of positive people that can influence their life. You may even like to take it one step further and highlight one or two traits they display that are just like that role model they admire so much.